Learn Not To Chase, But To Attract People.

Learn never to chase anyone, no matter what. If people are unwilling to stay with you they won't even if you do anything in your capacity to make them stay. Don't waste your energy on something which is not gonna happen. Rather, try to focus on your life and work on yourself. No matter how many friends you have, there are potential likelihoods of disloyalty. You will always be abandoned. But those abandonments will be more severe if you have nothing or if you are nothing in your life. Human interaction is based on the simple concept of need, curiosity and help. We would not be interacting with anyone if we never needed anything. That's it.

Human beings are the only species that hate each other and can kill even for self-gain. To seek assistance and to fulfil our emotional needs we need others. Just imagine any scenario where we are not interacting with others for any personal/emotional gain. When we are bored we try to find someone interesting, when we need sex we try to find a partner or say, love. Be it status, love or money etc. Everywhere. For everything, we are chasing people.

One may say it's natural but what I am trying to say is that this is the defining feature of a human being. And as a result of this people are most likely to leave when they are done with you. But what stays with you is you.

If you are fully dependent on others, you will remain a people-pleaser. And you will never grow. Nobody will come to you, not unless they need something really important.

So learn to do This :

The first thing, you need to know about attracting other people is that you don't need to focus on attracting them. Focus on yourself rather than attracting them. Once, you will start doing that, people will be automatically attracted to you. Focus on building yourself. Learn something new every day.

Focus on your career, life, learn new skills, develop new talents, read books, work out, paint, or write. Do things that will help you grow. You will see people around you getting surprised by your growth. Reach to that level where people can miss your absence, where people can lose hope if you are not available in the team. It's just about directing your energy to the right things, not people. Stop chasing and start focusing on yourself.

Conclusion

Well, this was just a brief thought and nothing more. Please don't interpret it in the wrong way. All I want to say is that you need to learn not to chase and focus on your life. Don't get too much attached to the people. Don't get too dependent on others. Not for love, not for anything at all.

Thanks for reading.